After some inspiration I’m back… Starting with ‘the birth’

After giving birth to Maya now 6 months… I haven’t posted once and had decided with my new sleep deprived life I didn’t have the time to carry on. Since giving up I have received several requests to carry on with the blog and this has given me the inspiration to carry on writing! (Watch this space for the new reviews)

Rather than just miss out on the first six months of Maya’s life I thought I would start at the beginning THE BIRTH!

LUnknownike most pregnant women I was filled with hope that I was going to have a pain free, tranquil water birth with no complications even though I had experienced a rather traumatic one first time round with Isabella. To help me this time round I did all that I could including Pregnancy massage with Sue Nicolson in Winchester and Yoga for Pregnancy with Marion Symes.

imagesYou may have read in a previous post that already my pregnancy wasn’t as straight forward as I had liked as my waters were leaking but with monitoring each day I managed to make it to full term and go into labour naturally. My waters broke and I was dancing round the house with excitement that I had gone into labour naturally and wasn’t going to have to be induced. Pacing the house to try and get my contractions stronger 24 hours later nothing was happening so the hospital requested that I went in for a quick trace.

When I arrived at the Day Assessment unit they decided that Maya’s heart rate was dipping and I needed to be induced so was moved to labour ward. I wasn’t prepared for this as I didn’t want to go down the same route as Isabella on the hormone drip and I started to panic. I felt as if this instantly meant my labour was going to be horrific and I would need an epidural. James (my husband) was brilliant and reminded me of all that I had learnt in yoga and forced me to get up off the bed.

After an assessment I was told that it would be at least another 6 hours even with the hormone drip as I was only 3cms. I was devastated and as Maya’s heart rate was playing up I was sure it was all about to go wrong so started asking for a c-section as I was too tired.

A shift changed happened whist I was having this melt down a brilliant new midwife arrived. She walked in and said ‘when you got pregnant you knew labour was going to be tiring and hard work so get on with it, this was only the start of tiredness’. I was so shocked this kicked me into shape and I got up and sat on the gym ball focusing on my contractions.

Every contraction determined that I wasn’t going to have pain relief this early as I still had a long way to go I was focusing on my golden thread breathing (an incredible technique that you can learn with Marion Symes). I felt calm, composed and not in pain then all of a sudden I started to panic and say I needed pain relief the current midwife called someone into the room and she told me I was in transition and to get up off the ball as I was having my baby. Eleven minutes later Maya arrived with absolutely no pain relief, this was only an hour and half after my assessment. I was in total shock as I had no idea I was that close to giving birth!

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Still to this day I can’t believe I managed to get as close to the birth I planned as possible, this felt so far away when I was being hooked up to the hormone drip. I learnt a lot from this labour and really feel your mindset and focus can help you through a labour, without going to Marion’s yoga lessons I believe that I wouldn’t have learnt how to manage my pain through breathing and truely recommend her to anyone. Before this labour I believed it was impossible to have a pain free birth with the hormone drip but this isn’t true, if you can keep active, calm and focus on your breathing you’ll be surprised how this can help your labour progress and I can honestly say my contractions were pain free whilst focusing on my breathing.

For all those pregnant ladies out there keep calm and remember to breath.

Maya is now six months old and in this time we have faced many challenges that I will be writing about including sleep deprivation, allergies, bedroom sharing and the start of weaning. Over the next few weeks I will be writing as much as possible sharing the trials and tribulations of the Tapp household 🙂

Sophie x

The final preparations

ImageI haven’t posted for a while as my life recently turned into a whirl wind of medical appointments with the scare of my waters rupturing early! After several consultations and monitoring, we found ourselves having to make the decision to leave her inside or have a c-section. Something neither of us had planned for or felt qualified to do so. The consultants tests to check her well being all came back ok, so we are currently seeing how it goes (the backing of my midwife, making me slightly less anxious) and now hoping to make it to full term and have a natural birth.

Tonight we have been moving our bedroom furniture around (ok, James has) to make way for a cot and changing table, its all starting to feel real now and my midwife is on to me to pack my hospital bag, so that will be my next chore.. I’ve ordered a few toiletries online and asked for a bath soak and cream for my birthday tomorrow so maybe I will get them 🙂

The re-arranging of the house for baby furniture is definitely making it all start to feel real and makes you think about having a newborn around the house again. James and I are struggling to remember the sleepless nights, loads of nappies and how you actually play with a baby but I’m sure when she arrives this will all come flooding back to us.

ImageI’ve also started to read ‘The contented baby with toddler’ book by Gina Ford and wish that I had started to read it earlier as it has some amazing information in it. As with all books you need to take from it what works for you and not stick to it like a bible. Some of the topics in her book provide information on how to juggle pregnancy with a toddler, labour and a toddler, introducing a toddler to a new sibling and routine ideas to fit around nursery, playgroup and classes as well as a newborn.

With all of the above, trying to keep calm and relax has been difficult but I have found that my weekly yoga class has become a bit of a lifeline.. It is a dedicated 1 1/2 hours to relax and focus on the baby and pregnancy without any of life’s other interruption’s. The class I go to is with Marion Symes and she is amazing, I feel really confident about the birth and have taken away some great techniques. For more information about her classes visit www.littlegemsyoga.co.uk or you can also buy her DVD’s if you don’t live in the area.

Hope you all had a great bank holiday weekend, I certainly did as we had Isabella’s god parents to stay and my friends arranged me a lovely baby shower at Lainston House, Winchester
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Hormones definitely present and fear kicking in..

UnknownLast night we had a refresher antenatal course which we both found really useful reminding us of breathing, stages of labour, birth positions etc. Not only was the information useful it was nice to meet other couples that are about to be in the same position. I would definitely recommend the NCT refresher course to any expecting second time parents.

Fear.egg_28d661After leaving the course this sudden fear arrived, how was I going to cope with two? Its hard enough to get showered and out of the house with one.. Will Isabella be sleeping better by then as she is cutting her molars and ear ache is keeping her awake alot! We also better start preparing for the baby as by now everything was in place for Isabella (our first) and this time round we have done nothing.

I’m sure these are all normal feelings and this morning I feel better and really confident, I know those first weeks are going to be tough but once we are in a routine and have adapted all will fit into place. Other fears I have had are how it will affect Isabella, who will be looking after her when I’m in labour, what if I’m stuck in hospital for a long time, will she adapt to having a sister around the house?

Again most expecting mum’s second time round have had these fears at some point but on the whole you know it will all work itself out and Isabella will end up with a playmate, learn about sharing and have someone to fight with 🙂

Hormones are definitely kicking in, back ache is a constant and tiredness never seems to go away. After reading all of the above I am still really excited about meeting our new little princess and having a newborn around the house again..

Keep calm and carry on
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Thought we were going to meet our daughter at 32 weeks!

1268289_10151682563908587_1077960968_oLast Thursday we headed off to Cornwall for Heat 2 and 3 of the Thundercat National Championship (www.thundercatracing.com) a powerboat series that my husband (James) is involved in. We left at 7pm so Isabella would sleep for the whole of the 4 hour journey and went in convoy as I needed my car and James had to tow.

About an hour away from our destination I called James to let him know I needed to pull over as I thought I was experiencing bad Braxton Hicks, we stopped for a couple of minutes and then carried on the journey. By the time we had finally arrived I was experiencing quite a lot of pain it was taking my breath away. Still convinced that it was Braxton Hicks I put Isabella to bed and then went straight to bed myself. In the morning I woke up to what I believed was my waters (surely I hadn’t just wet myself?) I called my midwife for advise who suggested that I call Truro hospital and go straight to their day assessment unit (DAU) to be safe.

ImageAs I thought Isabella would get bored in the hospital I headed off on my own and left James and Isabella behind. One massive mistake I had already made was leaving my maternity notes at home, the DAU weren’t pleased but still continued to look after me really well. On arrival I was put in my own room, urine sample and blood pressure taken and was hooked up to a heartbeat monitor to do a half an hour trace. Once the trace was complete I had to await a doctor to then do a speculum and confirm my waters had gone? By this point I was really nervous as just wanted everything to be ok…

ImageOnce the doctor had completed the examination she confirmed it looked as if my waters had leaked and wanted to send me for a scan to confirm if there was enough amniotic fluid for the baby to be ok. After a series of tests I was told all looked ok and to take it easy looking out for any more fluid loss, pain or rise in temperature.

Relieved I headed back to Watergate Bay where my husband was preparing for the racing with lots of people running around for me making sure I had somewhere to sit and something to eat and drink. I spent the rest of the weekend watching the racing and playing with Isabella on the beach without too much discomfort or worry and headed home on Monday morning.

Whist driving home someone crashed into the back of me pushing in my rear bumper and breaking the number plate. Isabella wasn’t fased by this at all but I was concerned the impact could have caused some issue for the ‘bump’. On the phone to my midwife straight away again she asked me to come straight in and do another trace to check the baby was happy.

After seeing the midwife all was well and I was glad to finally arrive home, since being at home all has been well and I have been taking it easy.

Fingers crossed she stays in there until at least 37 weeks 🙂
Hope you all had a better weekend and will keep you posted on any progression

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Growing up so fast and tough night..

ImageI had a great day with Isabella today, her cheeky little personality is really starting to shine through and makes me laugh all day long. She is gradually becoming more independent and definitely can’t be described as a baby but a toddler. James (my husband) is away working for two weeks in the south of France so things have been tough with pregnancy/hip pain and balancing the cleaning, washing and a toddler. On the plus side I am feeling more energetic as I have been listening to hypno-birthing music before bed and getting early nights rather than sitting up watching TV and talking to James.

How women cope with two under two I am yet to work out but I will soon find out only 10 weeks left until my due date 🙂

Tonight was tough, I made the decision to finally make the transition from bottle to beaker at bed time and she drank the same amount of milk happily but was wide-awake and not ready to sleep. With determination I kept getting her to lie down trying to show her I was calm and could do it all night although inside I was irritated! An hour later she was finally asleep and since falling asleep (i’m going to jinx this) she seems pretty settled and has not woken up since going to bed so fingers crossed it will just take a couple of nights for her to get used to the new routine. It always seems that you get settled in a routine and then its time to tackle something new and start again, hopefully second time round it will be easier knowing what works and doesn’t as there is so much conflicting advice.

 

Antenatal refresher course and yoga

UnknownLast night was my first NCT antenatal refresher course and I was a little dubious about wether I would find it useful but actually really enjoyed the first session and am looking forward to the rest. I would recommend these to any second time mum to not only meet some other mum’s in the same boat as you but also remind yourself of the stages of labour, pain relief, breathing etc.. The course is a 2 hour weekly session over 5 weeks and the last one is for your partner too. Not only is it nice to refresh yourself on labour but I find it a really nice time to focus on the baby as first time round with Isabella she was my only focus this time I struggle to get time to stop and think i’m even pregnant.

http://www.nct.org.uk

pregnancy-yoga class2This time I have been suffering pelvic pain which is totally new to me, I think this is because I am constantly lifting Isabella and running around rather than resting. To help with this I have enrolled onto a specialist Yoga course with Marion Symes – She practiced as a midwife for 12 years but now her main focus is teaching pregnancy and postnatal yoga. She used to run Active birth preparation courses at her local maternity unit but she now incorporates this teaching into her antenatal yoga course. I am starting this six week course soon so will keep you updated on how I get one :-).

http://www.littlegemsyoga.co.uk

Anyway nearly the weekend,
Sophie
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Bloods, GTT and Anti D

I am the most squeamish person ever usually passing out when I have my blood pressure taken so pregnancy is a big test for me especially as my blood group is O rhesus – meaning I have to also have an anti d injection.

1217870163_1384867161Today I had my GTT and there were no dramas I didn’t pass out and it really wasn’t that bad. I also had to have my bloods and GTT last week which I survived both of them as well. Everytime I have something done like this I come away thinking it wasnt that bad yet before each procedure I work myself up into a total stupor, I really and wish I could get over it.

I only have my whooping cough jab left and then its just time to sit and wait for labour to start no more nasty procedures.

Easter Break & Pregnancy Pain

Sorry for not posting we have been away sleeping in a retro camper van called Gertrude at Stewartby Lake as my husband is involved in Powerboat Racing and had no wifi or 3G.

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We had a fantastic weekend away as Isabella loves being outdoors and really enjoyed sleeping in the camper, she also enjoyed watching the racing, playing outside, making daisy chains and eating her own body weight in chocolate..

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Unfortunately during the weekend I noticed my back was getting more and more painful.. Something I never had when I was pregnant with Isabella nor have I had any other symptoms this pregnancy so far. Today it felt so bad it hurt to walk and was still uncomfortable sitting, I called my midwife to explain the pain and she thinks it’s SPD.

I have had a look on the NHS website and it seems quite a common issue Some women develop pelvic pain in pregnancy. This is sometimes called pregnancy-related pelvic girdle pain (PRGP) or symphysis pubis dysfunction (SPD).

Luckily I have an appointment with her on Thursday to have my Anti D (as I’m O rhesus negative) and she is referring me to a physio so fingers crossed that will help? If any of you reading this have experienced SPD and have any tips to help I would love to hear from you…

Hope you all had a wonderful break
Sophie
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Meeting our daughter 4D style

I have been excited about today all week as we had our 4D scan at Babybond and I had a manicure and pregnancy massage booked at Eastern Art this evening whilst my husband spent some quality time with our daughter and put her to bed…

The day was exactly as expected perfect.. Our new little daughter looked like a perfect bundle of joy and her growth scan was as expected with all vital organs as they should be. That said she wasn’t in a photographic mood and had me bouncing on a ball to try to get her to change position.

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The 4d scan was especially important to James who feels it is much more real having an indication of what she looks like, whereas I’m lucky enough to feel her every day. Pregnancy is so different second time round with a young toddler, you have no time for yoga, relaxing cd’s and are constantly lugging a heavy pram and toddler about. It was lovely for James and I to take an hour out of our day to dedicate the whole time to focus on our little ‘bump’.

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To finish off a lovely day I headed to Eastern Art for my massage and manicure. I chose to have a tropics shellac manicure which I absolutely love and a 45 minute pregnancy massage was the ultimate in relaxation! So enjoyable that I have booked again for four weeks time and already can’t wait 🙂

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Hope you all have a lovely weekend

Sophie x